Cyberbullying: Who the real victims and the accusers are, and all the other shizniz

Posted: November 15, 2012 in Definitely Filipino / Kuro-Kuro Submissions

I will start my article with this,

Christopher Lao’s example of Cyberbullying:

That guy who was alleged to have HIV has proven himself to be negative from it. HE SHOWED PROOF through the medical test results. So the netizens let him live his life, and the society would look at him like a clean individual that he already is. And the netizen I believe would be wise enough to not put him in the spotlight any longer. Case closed. He is clean.

THE ONE WHO SHOULD be put to blame here is the source of that viral post. And doing such act is something that all of us netizens should avoid.

CHRISTOPHER LAO was “cyberbullied” because he was so arrogant, that he blamed the MMDA people of his stupidity, saying no one informed him that it was a deep section of the road that he was trying to traverse.

Unlike the “HIV” guy, he wasn’t absolved. HE did not show any proof that he was NOT STUPID. So in the eyes of the social media masses, he is still a stupid driver, to say the least. 🙂

Kidding aside, the case with Ms. AMALAYER is pretty much similar. We kid, we bully – because that is what we are. Hell, we even share hate posts against PNOY just for the heck of it. And why is that? Simply because a lot of people see him as someone who’s not doing his job properly. If there is such word like “street justice”, then that’s just what these netizens do. They try the accused based on how they see the case.

What I think what happened to Ms. Amalayer, is something a social bully like her also deserves. I am hearing a lot of noise about the attitude of the guards in LRT stations have (bear with me on this, because I really haven’t experienced riding in MRT or LRT, and get hassled by them).

I can’t help but think of whether Ms. Amalayer should be given the right to say abusive and humiliating words to that lady guard (whom I believe is only doing her job – and she really was good in composing herself), and be given justification that what Ms. Amalayer did to her should be tolerated.

Now, should the society tolerate such act? I personally don’t think so.

Given the benefit of the doubt to Ms. Amalayer, and let us just say that she was really given a hard time by the lady guard on that day – if you were a person not lesser than Ms. Amalayer, the best thing that you could have done is shut up, and ask any of their superior, or the LRT Station manager, and air out your concern. Well, you’ve been hassled anyway, why not take it up a notch and give them back the hassle the right way?

And don’t we people know the words “patience” and “courtesy”, especially when we are in a public place, let alone in a train station like that of the LRT and MRT? I am not sure about the facts behind the scene in the vid, but I have never been hassled by any guard from any MRT or LRT station. Some are saying that Ms. Amalayer was already running late, and she tried to bypass the xray inspection, that’s why she got stopped by the lady guard. What could’ve triggered her to go berserk over the lady guard? I bet she got embarrassed, that’s why she tried to “bring back the favor”. And that, I believe is just not the right thing to do.

It’s not the guards’ fault that that particular LRT station gets crammed up by people during rush hour. And I believe that it really is quite impossible for a lady guard to just pick up a random person in the queue, and give her a hard time for no reason. Ms. Amalayer brought this to herself.

Instead of people like Mr. Lao, and Ms. Amalayer trying to convince the netizens, that they were mere victims of cyberbullying, they should just admit their mistakes – that they were rude, and they were caught red handed while doing some rude act. And we haven’t even mentioned Carabuena in the story. Well, in fairness to him, he did a public apology, and he personally apologized to that MMDA enforcer. He wasn’t forgiven, but he still admitted his mistake.


A certain Adi Bontuyan posted this on his Facebook:




posted by Adi Bontuyan:

“To my friends and the beloved public, please read this.This #AMALAYER bullshit is being blown out of proportion. Reading the comments/tweets/insults makes me more sick that the video itself. We can do better than this.Is the Filipino social media identity a short-tempered angry mob rather than a pool of informed citizens? Are we supposed to expect to see shit like this every now and then? Wh

at’s next: TV show na may Suntukan segment against Claudine Barreto? I bet everyone would want that.The video is simply a mirror to our (westernized) society (disregard the fact that I saw four BIG ASS Bench billboards of four Korean men/boys (idk) in EDSA-Guadalupe tanginang yan)

Think about it these few points.

1. She’s rude. SO-FUCKING-WHAT?!

Oh no! May bad manners siya. BIG DEAL.

She’s rude and annoying and dumb enough to do it in front of a camera. She’s just having a bad day like we all normally do. She doesn’t deserve all the cyberbullying and death threats. You simply don’t know how it feels.

I’m rude. You are rude. Filipino drivers ARE rude. People who violently push and curse their way inside the train are rude. Taxi drivers who pick their passengers are rude. Your governor is rude. Those who murdered of the FOI bill are fucking rude. The MMDA who just asked for a bribe is rude. Society who cyberbullied the fuck out of a law student who was “not informed” of the flood is rude as well as those who bombarded a bully of a Sotto critic with death threats.

Rude has become a norm for Filipinos. We have accepted it. Then suddenly, thanks to a video, we act as if we are all saints.

Condemning someone who can’t say “I’m a liar?” IS RUDE AND ARROGANT. So what kung kupal siya? Ngayon lang kayo nakakita ng kupal on video? Mas kupal yung mob behavior. Kitang kita ang Filipino humility, courtesy and tolerance sa posts niyo. Nakakatawa.

2. I read a comment “Kayo ang yayabang niyo, kala niyo naman gagaling niyo mag-ingles.” The reply goes “tara english tayo ano?! I’ll destroy you dipshit” (or something like that)

Is English the standard for intellect? Is the English language the barrier of classes?

The answer is this paraphrased comment: “OMG! My driver speaks better English than her! She has no right to boast anything!”

3. “I just hate how she acted like that” (quoted from a comment)

Like what exactly? Like the bratty blond Hollywood personalities that we have celebrated?

We have westernized the shit out of our society; don’t act surprise when we see the result.

4. What if:

Replace the guard with a male guard. Replace the girl with a foreign woman – lets say an attractive blonde woman shouting in her British accent.

Will it be viral? Yes. Who will get the sympathy? The woman was just “harassed by the guard”

But the guard probably wouldn’t even touch her because he/she would be friggin scared of the almighty westerners. All hail the whites!

You may now proceed on buying Lactacyd Intimate White™ and naming all movies in cheesy English phrases.

5. If this is “The Power of Social Media” according to some blogs/articles, then this means we are as trivial as our TV shows. If this is us being a public eye or a watch dog, then we have failed as a society. We try to move forward but we do things that will lag us. Tangina ang babaw kaya. Ganun na ba tayo na-brainwashed ng sensationalized local programming?

TL;DR – – I’D RATHER BE A RUDE, BITCHY, AND ARROGANT PERSON (who sometimes loses his cool in public) THAN A TRIVIAL-MINDED SELF-RIGHTEOUS HYPOCRITE WHO SHAMES, BULLIES AND EXPELS PEOPLE WITH LITTLE BASIS. (heard she got expelled from her school – some comments are DEMANDING her to be expelled – what offense? Why!? IDK probably “Not speaking proper english during a breakdown bringing shame to our humble institution” that’s why)

We are hypocrites and we are rude to our own nation.



So, should we tolerate stupid people like Mr. Lao and just have their way?  We didn’t even know at first that he was a lawyer.

Should we let pass what Ms. Amalayer did to that lady guard? We didn’t even know at first that she came from an exclusive school.

Should we, just shrug it off when we see incidents of road rage and violence, like what we saw from Mr. Carabuena? We didn’t even know at first whether the MMDA stopped him and charge him with wrong violations.

Should we just let it happen, that people like Raymart and Claudine just hit a  media practitioner like Mon Tulfo, just because they think they outnumber him, and when the Tulfo Brothers hit back on them through the mainstream media, they talk as if they are the once who get victimized by receiving grave threats?

We are not Cyberbullies.

We pride ourselves by being Cyber Vigilantes.

We’ve got our eyes on the bullies of the society.

So don’t cry and act as if you’re the victims. You brought these to yourselves. Live with it.

If you don’t want your social life ruined, then don’t do something stupid in public, because you just don’t know who’s caught in you in a vid.

Better yet. Just follow the golden rule, whether in the social media or in your real, actual life. 

  1. da cybie says:

    This is more of a case of “Bullying the bully”. What next? Racist remarks against Obama being publicized in facebook and being bullied for it? Oh yeah, that recently happened too.

  2. feitan says:

    If she never acted like that in the first place then these bullying would never happen. Though I don`t agree with how other social media people react on her action — you know — trolls, we can`t blame them . I see nothing wrong on the video being posted, its for the viewers to decide, each and everyone have their own individuality, different reactions and opinions, and you can`t do anything bout that. The moral lesson is to practice humility and tolerance all the time, having a bad day should never be an excuse. Yes, to err is human, but I could not walk around punching everyone that I see and say afterwards — SORRY, DI LANG MAGANDA NAGING ARAW KO !! wtf

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